Exploring The State of Grace - Learning About Contrition

Sunday November 18th was our eleventh session together. This week we covered Unit 2, Chapter 8 "We Say We Are Sorry". In preparing for the session, I established the focus as understanding contrition and why we need the Sacrament of Reconciliation. The lesson plan for the session includes the topics discussion, the activities worksheet, and craft activity.

Packing Light: If you just want the activity sheet for this session, you can find it here. It has two crossword activities.

When we met in the common area for the whole group activity, some of us helped out the members of Society of St. Vincent de Paul by carrying the donated food from the front of the church over to the staging area. Then we received our awards from the All Saints parade! And, also once again we had many 2nd graders win the Perfect Attendence for October: Courtly Polar Bear, Rocking Horse, Effusive Jaguar, and Sweet Pea Elephant... way to go!

We also learned that for just this session, we had a visiting 2nd grader and also the 3rd and 4th graders joined us! Wow! We are not used to so many together with us! Especially the boys, since there are usually so few... we needed a few reminders on showing respect while others are talking.

So we started off by remembering that we need to say "I'm sorry" when we sin. I wondered whether we could just say "I'm sorry" and then we would automatically be forgiven? "No way, you have to pray first" said Effusive Jaguar.

But there's something else - can anyone figure it out? If I wallop my sister on the head and say "I'm sorry" and then wallop her again -- am I really sorry? "No, it doesn't sound like you mean it!" said Sweet Pea Elephant.

And what if I wallop my sister on the head and then say "I'm sorry" right as my mother is coming over so she doesn't get mad at me? "Still seems suspicious to me" said Rocking Horse.

So what is it I need? Do I need to really FEEL sorry and not just SAY sorry? "Absolutely, you gotta mean it or it doesn't count" said Effusive Jaguar.

Exactly! And when you mean it, it is called "C-O-N-T-R-I-T-I-O-N, contrition". That is when you really feel sorry for what you have done. And when we go to Reconciliation, we say a prayer called "Act of Contrition" that says we are sorry.

Effusive Jaguar noted that this whole Reconciliation thing sure has a lot of big words to learn. I had to agree... which is why today I brought some friends to help us learn more about it. My friends here are puppets, and they need you to help finish them so they can participate in some puppet shows today! (Luckily I had enough extra puppets and scripts to go around! I do not usually have that many extra available!!).

The puppets were met with great delight by the girls, but with mixed emotion by many of the boys. It took quite some repeated encouragement to get the hestitant boys to color their puppets. Even then, they only wanted to color the boy puppets. The girl puppets were quickly used as dive bombers (NB: they do not hold up well to repeated folding and crashing into the desk~). This surprised me just a little as the boys are usually equally excited to do the activities. I used the occasion to remind the boys that they were not being respectful of the time

and care I had put into the activity and if they didn't like them they should have offered to give them back instead of destroying them. We talked about how maybe we needed to think about whether what they were doing was a good choice or not. I am very happy to say we had significantly improved behavior after that small conversation! (I must mention that the sole 3rd grade boy did not participate in the wild rumpus, but rather did an excellent job and not only colored them beautifully, but was the first to finish both his puppets!).
Meanwhile, while all that conversation was occurring, the girls had clustered into several groups, coloring away. You know my usual, I started peppering them with the questions about Mass... they never cease to amaze me with their responses! At least they are trying to pay attention!

"What color was Father wearing today?"

"Green" (said Sweet Pea Elephant) "Yes, green AGAIN. Is he EVER going to wear anything else?" (said Effusive Jaguar)

"You will be surprised, you should definitely keep watching! Did you all participate in the Penitential Rite like we discussed?"

"Yeah - but it was that different one again" (said Sweet Pea Elephant)

"Yes, Father again chose to use one of the other options today." (The 3rd and 4th graders were fully engaged by this time) "...and you know what else I am curious about? What about the Gloria"

"Oh, I know! We sang it!" (said one of our visiting 4th graders)

"You got it! And what about the Holy, Holy, Holy?"

"Oh, I know! We sang that too!" (said one of our visiting 3rd graders)

"Yeah, buddy! And we had one more special thing at Mass this morning, didn't we?"

(no takers)

"You gotta be kidding me... Effusive Jaguar I KNOW you saw something you didn't see before!"

"Oh Yeah! My Grandma did some reading up there today!"

And so we talked a bit about how the different people go up from the congregation to read now. Then, with much more prompting, the children completed their puppets... as soon as everyone had at least one puppet completed, we could begin the show.

On with the show!

Now, normally, we have a very small class and the plan was that we would read through each of the two scripts twice, that way each child would have a chance to participate. But with such a larger group today, we just had to rely on volunteers who were ready. We were a little unsteady at first, as the two first readers had a hard time holding up their puppets and keeping their place in the script... but we soon figured out how to have helpers keep their places and they got into a great rhythm. The children even helped each other over the tough words. I interjected questions and "oh wows" at ~coincidentally~ appropriate times in the plays. And once I had the boys mixed into the group (instead of clustered to the back by themselves, where they were wont to stay), everyone participated very nicely and was very interested in the stories! Even though they were not well-rehearsed or smooth presentation, we had a lot of fun with them and we also had a nice conversation about the stories afterward. The first was called "Act of Confusion" and led us through the Act of Contrition prayer line by line (in a very humorous and memorable manner!). The second was called "I Don't Want To Say I'm Sorry" which helped us understand why we need to go to Sacrament of Reconciliation even when we already said we were sorry. They were both fun! (NB - because I was having the children read these 'extemporaneously', I definitely think each child having their own copy of the script to follow along helped as an engagement factor). I heard several of the girls say that they were going to practice the show for their parents. I hope they do!

We will meet again after the Thanksgiving break. Our next session afterwards will be a unit 2 review, so there weren't any Family Time pages sent home today, although I did hand out the worksheets, as well as the pages from the chapter in Blest Are We. You can enjoy following the mass with them through the Thanksgiving holiday!

Side Trips: if you want more information, activities, and games...

• If you just have a bit of time, definitely go for the online activity for this chapter at Blest Are We
• If you have two-bits of time, check out more of the puppet shows at Catholic Mom Puppet Ministry
• For more in-depth activities, check out some of the links in the lesson plan there are many coloring pages of Psalms

Mountain Climbing For Rules To Live By

Sunday November 11th was our tenth session together. This week we covered Unit 2, Chapter 7 "We Think About Our Choices". In preparing for the session, I established the Ten Commmandments as rules God sent us to help us know how to live. The lesson plan for the session includes the topics discussion, the activities worksheet, and craft activity.

Packing Light: If you just want the activity sheet for this session, you can find it here. It has a follow-directions activity, word search, and maze activity.

When we met in the common area for the whole group activity, we all turned in our Toilet Paper and Macaroni & Cheese - which we were requested to bring as our contribution to the Saint Vincent de Paul pantry. Next week we are supposed to bring Peanut Butter and Jelly!

When we arrived at our room today, we noticed the desks had been arranged in a new pattern. This was cause for great discussion and excitement (?!). I asked if everyone was so grumpy because they had eaten all their Halloween candy? Whoa, sensitive subject there I guess!

Moving on, I asked the children to gather together and sit on the floor together in a circle. We remembered how God gave each of us free choice, and that he gave us two gifts to help us make good choices: a conscience, and the Holy Spirit. Then I asked if anyone knew another gift that God gave us to help us know how to make good choices. No takers.

So I started in on a story, and asked them to let me know when they figured it out. I told it sort of mystery-style... about how God selected this man to lead His people out of Egypt, how after lots of arguments with the pharoah there, they finally left. Then, they started to cross the dessert. But they weren't being very nice to each other and they were also worshipping other gods. So God wouldn't let them find their new home until they started to act better. Finally this man went up on a mountain - what we call Mount Sanai - and asked God to PLEASE give us some rules to live by! (At about this time Pragmatic Tiger figured out that we were talking about Moses - yeah!). So then I asked what did God give to Moses on that mountain? Rocking Horse had it: "the Ten Commandments on some stones or something." We talked about how Moses took them down the mountain and taught the people the new rules and how finally they were able to get to their new home. We talked about how we still need to use these rules today.

We reviewed each commandment, what it might mean for us. Here is what we figured out:

Have No Other Gods

We should say prayers to God

We should not skip Church to watch Dexter's Laboratory, because that would be like we liked the cartoons better than God.

Respect God's Name

We should be nice when we use God's name.

We should not use His name in vain. (the children knew it this way!)

Keep Holy the Lord's Day

We should go to Church on Sunday.

We should try to be extra nice on Sunday.

Respect Your Parents

We should not be sassy.

We should not disobey them.

We should not tell them we will do something and then not do it.

Do Not Kill

We definitely should not kill other people. (The children did have a question about if we were having a war and sometimes soldiers need to do it. I told them that is a tough situation and those soldiers are not fighting for themselves they are fighting for their country. I encouraged the children to talk to their parents about it!).

We also talked about how even "just" fighting with someone is not respecting life.

Do Not Commit Adultery

We talked about how this is mostly for grown-ups, how when two people decide to get married they promise to share their love only with each other. (The children had questions about whether that meant they couldn't love their children or other family and friends, and I explained that we were talking about husband-wife kind of love. They did have more questions, I acknowledged them all and told them they were really good questions and they should remember to talk to their parents about it!)

Do Not Steal

We should definitely not take things that are not ours.

We should definitely not take things from someone even if we know they took it first.

We shouldn't cheat on a test or cheat on a game.

Do Not Lie

We should not tell anyone a lie.

Even if we think we are being nice if we tell a lie, we should not tell a lie. We should think of something else that isn't a lie instead.

Honor Your Neighbor's Wife

We talked about how this is sort of like that other grown-up commandment.

Honor Your Neighbor's Goods

We should not want to take away things other people have.

We should not want those people to get hurt or to lose their stuff just because we wanted to have it.

Then, one by one, I handed out strips of paper with a commandment written on it. We started with Fair Cheetah and "Have No Other Gods" and "Respect God's Name". Then Pragmatic Tiger had to re-state the one Fair Cheetah said, and then read his own, "Keep Holy the Lord's Day"... and so forth... each one trying to remember all the ones that came before! We were a team and gave hints when we needed to! That was tough but kind of fun!

Then I explained that we had a game we could play to help us remember. I handed out the 'fortune tellers' that had the Ten Commandments on them. The children who recognized the toys were delighted immediately and set straight away to play with them. I gave a demonstration for the others and helped them to get their fingers into the right slots. It only took a few minutes before they were all playing away and the excitement mounted! They were like butterflies going from person to person asking them to pick a commandment!

There was so much excitement and fluttering-by that I didn't even have an opportunity to catch any photos of the children enjoying their 'fortune tellers'! Now, that's what I call distraction!

I did at least have presence of mind to remember to ask about Mass though:

"What did you notice at Mass today?"

"We had 2 guys up there again today!" (said Effusive Jaguar)

"Yes, we had a visiting Deacon today. What Color were they wearing?"

"Green - definitely green. But that other guy's was different." (said Effusive Jaguar... Sweet Pea Elephant seconded the idea.)

Yes, the Deacon wears different robes. Did you all participate in the Penitential Rite like we discussed?"

"Yeah - but it was different than we practiced!" (said Sweet Pea Elephant)

"Yes, Father chose to use one of the other options today." (We talked a bit about the different options for the Penitential Rite) "...and you know what else I am curious about?"

"Yeah, we know - we sang the Gloria, AND also the Holy, Holy, Holy" (said Sweet Pea Elephant)

Next time we will be covering Unit 2, Chapter 8 "We Say We Are Sorry".

Side Trips: if you want more information, activities, and games...

• If you just have a bit of time, definitely go for the online activity for this chapter at Blest Are We
• If you have two-bits of time, color your way through the story of Exodus at coloringbookfun.com
• For more in-depth activities, check out some of the links in the lesson plan - but note that some of the links may be non-Catholic Christian links and so the wording/ordering of the Ten Commandments may vary somewhat!

Fidgety Flock Figuring Out Forgiveness

Sunday November 4th was our ninth session together. This week we covered Unit 2, Chapter 6 "We Celebrate God's Forgiveness". In preparing for the session, I established the focus as ways we seek and obtain forgiveness. The lesson plan for the session includes the topics discussion, the activities worksheet, and craft activity.

Packing Light: If you just want the activity sheet for this session, you can find it here. It has a story activity, coloring, and word search activity.

When we met in the common area for the whole group activity, we learned that once again we have so many 2nd graders with perfect attendance for the prior month: Courtly Polar Bear, Effusive Jaguar, Sweet Pea Elephant, and Rocking Horse! Way to go 2nd graders! Today we had everyone join us!

Today we were fidgety. So fidgety. Could the wake of Halloween have left us all in the doldrums? Will we go mad waiting for a favoring wind? No! We can't wait for a fair wind, we have to make our own locomotion out of this place! And so I rowed through the session...

We talked about our discussion on choices from a couple of weeks ago, so we could remember what we talked about. We remembered that when we make a bad choice, we have to admit it and say we are sorry. Effusive Jaguar said it best: "And you have to mean it and try not to do it again, you can't just say it. I did something and so I told my mom I was sorry but then I just went and I did it again and then we talked about it and that is how I learned my lesson!"

Ok, so one thing for forgiveness is to admit we were wrong and ask for it from others.

Then we talked about how at Mass we also have a chance to ask for forgiveness. We read the Penetential Rite together. We looked through the Missalette to see where we find it during Mass and discovered it is right after the Priest welcomes us. (The children were very concerned that I had a copy of the Missalette from Church and had I asked if I could borrow it first?!!). We all promised that we would try to remember to say this out loud at Mass whenever we go. It gives us a chance to think about our week, say we are sorry, and start "fresh" again!

"Speaking of mass..."

"Before you even ask, we sang everything!" (said Effusive Jaguar) "That's right!" (said Sweet Pea Elephant)

"Color?"

"Green - definitely green. And, we had 2 priests up there today - Father Corry and Saint Jan!" (said Effusive Jaguar)

"Father Jan. He's the pastor."

"Yeah - him!" (said Effusive Jaguar)

Back to topic...row, row, row...

Ok, so now we have 2 ways we've talked about for obtaining forgiveness: say you are sorry to whoever you hurt, and ask for it at Mass during Penitential Rite.

What is a 3rd way? What is that sacrament we keep hearing about sometimes?

"You mean that one with the long name?" (asked Effusive Jaguar)

Yes, can anyone remember it?

"[something resembling 'reconciliation']?" (said Courtly Polar Bear))

So we talked just a bit about the sacrament and how we talk with the priest and he helps us get forgiveness for our sins.


Row, row, row... taking on water, sir!

OK, we have 3 ways covered: say we are sorry to others, say we are sorry at Mass, and say we are sorry at Reconciliation. Let's just talk about one more: we have to forgive others. Jesus says that we have to be forgiven if we want to have our sins forgiven.

The conversation didn't last long, we were too fidgety. It was early yet, but I brought out the craft activity: a card game called "4given".

Alright, we talked about 4 ways we can seek forgiveness, so now we have a card game called "4given" to help us learn and remember those 4 ways. ("Oh, I get it! 4 ways, forgiven!" said Fair Cheetah).

Now we're seeing that familiar eagerness! The children pounced on the decks of cards with gusto.









After speedily decorating the boxes, they immediately settled into groups of two to play the game! A quick question of ways to play - I mentioned "like matching or concentration" and they were off! I hadn't thought of a concentration-ish-version for 2-players, but they played several rounds. Two of the girls tried a "go fish" version. I wasn't sure how that would work, since there are only 16 cards in the deck, but they seemed to enjoy it nonetheless. The children happily obliged my requests to read out loud the card whenever they found a match. They all continued to play in various versions of the game for the remainder of the session.

This material is an important concept for us to master. I encouraged the children to be sure to read the BlestAreWe workbook pages and the regular activities worksheet and do the activities on them (which, as usual, Pragmatic Tiger had nearly completed already!). I suggested they read and play the 4given card games together, and maybe learn how to look up and read the Bible verses referenced.

I handed out the Family Time pages for Unit 2, Chapter 7.

Side Trips: if you want more information, activities, and games...

• If you just have a bit of time, definitely go for the online activity for this chapter at Blest Are We
• If you have two-bits of time, check out the forgiveness activity at forgiveness activity.
• For more in-depth activities, check out some of the links in the lesson plan there are many articles and activities on Prodigal Son and Good Shepherd.